Speaker of elephant truth, teller of elephant tales. Writer, journalist, blogger, producer, humorist.

What does he do?

What does he do?

Too often the first question from my friends' lips, when I mention a new man in my life, is ‘what does he do?’ “He makes me happy that’s what he does” is my answer. I could say he’s a chef… Continue Reading

Death is in the details

Death is in the details

I have photos of my dead mother on my phone. Not my mother before she died but my mother’s body after her death. I don’t seek these photos out but they occasionally come to me in those thumbnail photos that… Continue Reading

Thanks for the Facebook memories, not

Thanks for the Facebook memories, not

'Facebook memories' let me know that my mother, Joy, died 18 months ago this last week. Thanks Facebook. Now there's an anniversary I wasn't planning on marking. Why? Because my grief had finally got to the point of not counting.… Continue Reading

I have slept with all kinds of crazy

I have slept with all kinds of crazy

By the time most of us hit at least mid thirties it's pretty safe to say we're no longer virgins. I've had my fair share of longer term relationships and despite body and gender shaming rules that belong in the… Continue Reading