I am obsessed, obsessed I tell you, by the Let Them Walk video currently doing the social media rounds (I’ve posted it at the bottom of this blog). The message is so simple “when people can walk away from you let them walk.”
Let me premise this with saying I am not religious, far from it, but this three minute sermon by Bishop TD Jakes is highly addictive. I swear I have watched it at least five times today which contributes to the Bishop’s $150million net worth with every click of the play button.
Turns out this guy is a mega preacher in a mega church of 30 000 members and he wears a diamond ring the size of a dinosaur head (though someone should tell his tailor to take up his pants). I’m clearly preaching to the wrong people.
Now where was I? When people can walk away from you let them walk.
Most relationships have use by dates but as children we are not taught that it is ok not to be liked by everyone, it is ok not to like everyone back and that while you may like one person today you may not like them tomorrow.
Conflict resolution is not discussed, how to manage difference of opinion is not on the curriculum, instead girls declare each other BFFs (best friends forever) and change who they are to keep that promise.
TD Jakes has got it so right when he says “Your destiny is not tied to the person who left”. I say why do we pine and wail and pull our hair when the perceived man or woman of our dreams says ‘you know, I don’t think I want to play anymore’?
There are 9 billion people in this world and what on earth makes us think this is the only person that can fill our gaping hole, make us complete as though there is a finished product to be had at any point in the evolution of our life?
Your destiny is tied to you and you alone, it is YOUR destiny not someone else’s.
I practically peed my pants when TD shouted the words “You got to know when people’s part in your story is over so you don’t keep trying to raise the dead’.
If I was a god fearing gal I’d say “hallelujah TD hallelujah, I’ve been raising the dead for too long, trying to suck the last bitter juice of the lemon from a fruit that has long since shrivelled up.”
So many times I have tried to ‘manage’ a break up for an end result, to attach myself to an outcome, to ensure I still knew where the ex was, who he was with, whether his friends still like me when really what does it matter in the big nine million people on the planet scheme of things? What a waste of energy that could be used elsewhere.
When really the story has ended because, guess what, when people can walk away from you let…them…walk or as TD says:
“Clap your hands, wash your face, do your dance and move on.”
You said it mister, you said it.